After reading a younger friend’s entry on quarter-life crisis, I remembered this email forwarded to me several years ago.
They call it the “quarter-life crisis.” It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn’t know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don’t recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren’t really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but they are as confused as you.
You look at your job… and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn’t. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure, you laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren’t a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like and idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself… and while winning the race would be great, right now you’d just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
Through the years, I learned that quarter life crisis is a state of mind. There are things that are inevitably occurring and changes are constant. We have no control over these, but we can choose how to counter and react towards them. WE ALL GO THROUGH THIS. Enjoy the best and worst times that life has to offer. 🙂
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in addition, i think it’s the time we mature…the time we start to have our own minds and not just go with the flow. It’s the time we really start to THINK…
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Although the other things are a bit more complicated, I found the job angle to definitely be true. I got laid off right about as I was discovering that my job wasn’t really what I wanted to be doing, so in a way unemployment was a blessing, because otherwise I wouldn’t have had the motivation to take the leap and quit.
Now that I’m looking, the community at http://www.freeagentnet.com has been a pretty good place that I’ve been using to figure out what to do next. I’ve gotten more interested in marketing lately, so a bunch of the marketing people there have been helpful as I’ve tried to determine if that’s the next thing to pursue.
Who knows what I’ll end up doing next though… especially in this economy.
Good luck to everyone. Just keep in mind (if you’ve been laid off) that you now have a unique opportunity to re-evaluate the next stage of your career and life…
Hehehe. Based on this, I’ve got mine 20 years ago. I wonder what’s a midlife-crisis looks like. : )
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i’ve had this phase when i was in my late 20’s, and now it’s starting all over again.:D i sometimes wonder if it’s perimenopause or because i have now wisdom tooth (hahaha).
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sa mga ganitong pangyayari…minsan talga nagkakaron ng twist.
either gusto mo o nakikiayon ka lang sa flow ng trabaho.
hahaha.. i realized this while reading your post: naku, napagdaanan ko nang lahat ito. at yung iba, pinagdadaanan ko pa rin hanggang ngayon.
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LOL when i was 19 i also wrote on my column in the university paper some bitching about quarter life crisis but now at 21 i feel like i should be greatly bitching about it again LOL
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c’est la vie! viva la vida! 🙂
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let’s just enjoy the ride while we’re at it. i am a bit stressed with so many things these days, but last night, i just totally told myself that ‘life is too short’ to be stressing all the time.
I got this same article while in Makati. I was really mature for my age. I was already in my quater life crisis before I hit 25 hahaha…ang now look how carefree I am. I was able to address my fears early on and Thank God for that.
I am LOVING my life right now 🙂
you know what, marami ang nagsabi sakin na kaya daw naghiwalay ang parents ko kasi daw hindi nila nalagpasan yang quarter life crisis na yan. siguro nga!
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we all go through this methinks…honestly, the only thing I didn’t doubt since I began breathing in this world is my sexuality hehe 🙂 Yep, I’m not and will never be gay – that’s all I’m really sure of 🙂
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yay! i got linked! thanks! I’m really going through this stage right now…though maybe coincidentally only that everything that was mentioned above is happening to me now, all at the same time …
i experienced this a year ago! it was soo difficult for me! i don’t know where i am going and i don’t know what do to! my friends told me na ang aga ko naman daw na experience. glad i was able to surpass it. 🙂
Im turning 25 soon and the feeling is recurring…
I remember getting this in an email back in my early 20s and boyyyy did I relate with it! That’s so true how everything is about perspective. And also, surrounding oneself with supportive family and friends gets one through any crisis! 🙂
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